What’s the Difference Between Open and Closed Adoption?
Choosing adoption is a deeply personal journey. Whether you want to stay in touch with your child and the adoptive family, or prefer a more private and closed experience, you are in complete control of the type of adoption that’s right for you. We’re here to support your choice, not influence it.
What Is Open Adoption?
An open adoption allows for communication between you and the adoptive family – both before and after your baby is born. You get to choose the family, build a relationship with them, and decide how much contact you want over time. Nothing is forced or expected. Everything is up to you.
What It Can Look Like:
- You choose the adoptive family
- You talk with them by phone, text, video, or in person
- You may meet before the birth or spend time together at the hospital
- After placement, you can receive photos, updates, and even visits – if you want them
Benefits of Open Adoption:
- You stay connected and know your child is loved and thriving
- You build trust with the adoptive family
- Your child grows up knowing their story – and you
Some open adoptions involve regular updates, others are more limited – like occasional letters or photos. The plan is flexible and designed around your comfort level.
You Are Always in Control
We’ll guide you through your options, help you communicate your wishes clearly, and ensure the family you choose respects your boundaries.
What Is Closed Adoption?
A closed adoption means you choose to have no direct contact with the adoptive family, and your identifying information is kept private. You can still choose the family or ask us to select one, but all communication goes through your adoption professional.
What It Can Look Like:
- You don’t meet or speak with the adoptive parents
- No updates or contact after the adoption
- Your identity remains confidential
Reasons for a Closed Adoption:
- A desire for privacy or emotional space
Closed adoption is less common today, but it remains a valid and respected option. Your reasons are personal – and whatever you decide will be supported.
You Can Still Choose the Family
Even in a closed adoption, you can review adoptive parent profiles and select who you feel is the right match – without ever meeting them. Or you can ask us to choose for you.
